Wednesday, 23 January 2013

What If

Take the 'what if' chance, because you never know what could happen.

As writers especially, I have been told to always question 'what if' this happened? Books would be pretty boring if nothing happened in them, but especially without the element of 'what if'. What is going to happen is all a question of 'what if'.

What if I just decided not to get up today? As well as missing out on life experience, I would just be staring at these four walls! Pretty boring, huh?

The 'What If' analogy can apply to anything. In the case of relationships, a 'what if' may turn into a regret. Like in a previous post, I spoke about 'Loved You First' doing my head in, I  think you've gotta imagine a future where they don't know that you exist, and just think 'I'm not gonna stand for this!' There can be a lot of reasons that someone can be nervous about this, whether it's fear of rejection, a shy personality or just general terror, but you must learn to overcome these.  Just say to yourself 'If I was to die tomorrow, what would I like to have done?' And if it's someone you want to talk to, whether that's intimately or otherwise, and they're within touching distance, just do it and cast your worries aside. It's true of anything, one example I have was I recorded myself talking on a CD for my hero, which I did because I wanted to tell him everything he had done for me, but I knew when I would meet him, I would only have 5 minutes or less with him. So I did the recording, and I have been able to give it to him and I don't know whether he's ever listened to it; but I hope it brought a smile to his face.

One 'what if' I did fail at was when I was a little younger, and I had the biggest crush on the son of one of my dad's work colleagues. I won't use names, in case one day he comes across this, which though doubtful, is possible. His sister was all for it, and actually emailed me saying that we should try harder if our dad's work relationship was getting in the way. I never actually revealed my emotions to this boy, and now I feel I might have missed out.

So to avoid the feeling, 'What if I missed out', see the 'What If' analogy in a positive light and just go for it. You never know what could happen.

Thank you for reading. If there are any topics that you would like me to cover in future blogs, please leave me a suggestion in a comment and you never know, I could choose yours!

Steph

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Wednesday, 16 January 2013

Philosophy of Someday

What are we waiting for? If it was meant to be, it'll happen today. I hate the analogy of someday.

Because it's true, why are we waiting around for something spectacular to happen, when we could just make it happen today. Now, the only thing the 'someday analogy' is relevant to is love. No one can control when 'the right one' will walk into our lives. It may be that it's someone you've known your whole life but never looked at in that way until now, but it may be a complete stranger to you at the moment. I know  this is a very big topic to cover, so I think I'll leave it there for the moment.

For instance, I get impatient when I have to do something and someone else is messing around, trying to distract me. I'd rather just do it, without interruption and then maybe I can enjoy what they were trying to distract me with. If something needs doing, I'd rather just do it, get it out of the way and then enjoy whatever comes after.

It'll come when 'the time is right'. If you want it that bad, make today the right day. This is applicible to most situations, again excluding love. You never know what could happen in the future, which is what I guess makes this ride called your life, fun. My only suggestion for love, to make it come if you like, is to just get out there. Go to bars, clubs and anywhere else you might like to go, cos the truth is you could meet 'the  right one' anywhere. I understand about people who have careers to hold down, but just make time to go out and have some fun. And don't always go out with the same group. If you're versatile with the kind of people you go out with, this could be a talking point and/or bring new people (potential partners) into your life.

These are just my thoughts and you are more than welcome to disagree with me. If I have sparked up a reaction in you, or sparked up inspiration please leave a comment. Tell me what 'someday'  you're gonna make today! Thanks for reading xx

Wednesday, 2 January 2013

Tips To Being Happy!!

Ever wondered how to be happier in your life? I know I have and my mind is in the greatest position it's ever been in right now. Through youtube videos and researching, my horizons have been widened and things I didn't even think about, have the ability to make me feel better now. On some videos, not everything applied to my life, so I just eliminated those suggestions. I watched  this on the 1st of January 2013 and it opened my eyes.



And that's all they are - suggestions. Nothing can change your life if you don't let it. You've just got to be open to trying new things,  because as I've said before, if you never try you never know!

So, sit up a little straighter and smile. Everything that happens in life, is a lesson for the future. Maybe it's hard to see at the time but experiences of having your heart broken for instance, does make you stronger and teaches you to be wary of who to give your heart to.

I hope you've had an amazing start to 2013 and that you liked this post. Please let me know, and let me know if you'd like me to cover a particular topic. Thanks

Steph

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