I know that with a simple change, more to the way I think
about something can change the results.
The computer lost all files from the
desktop earlier. This was where my blog was so it was vital I found it!
searching through old files on this computer and finally I found this very
file! Perseverance pays off!
I had almost given up. There happened to be a
fiile inside a file that I hadn’t searched yet. Amongst everything I had
As I learnt from Tony Robbins ‘there are no failures, only
It’s about seeing that bigger things happen in the world than just
to you. Not to say that your claim to feeling however you feel is less
credible, but remembering this also helps you put things into perspective.
you’re going through a situation, I know it’s difficult to see the bigger
picture. But it’s good to remember that the reaction that we get from others is
not entirely based on us.
Who knows what they’ve been through up until they’ve
met you? And that’s a daily circumstance too. That happens daily.
know what another person may have seen, heard or done that has made them react
in this particular way to you.
On a more describing note, I had my very first interview earlier today.
It went well I think. someone I knew was heading up the board so that made things easier, and I got to say most of what I had prepared.
Little and often is the best way to rehearse I've found.
Also I am now an auntie!
I will let my readers know the outcome of the interview.
I know life isn’t always positive and some horrific things
do happen but if you can see the light instead of the dark, even for a moment,
you will be emitting light and making your world a little brighter, therefore
you will be a catalyst for good feeling. The light that you emit might be miniscule but it all makes
Think of when you’re at a gig. Now one lone voice calling
for a band/singer to come on stage won’t make enough noise for them to hear, probably,
but when collected together those calls can be heard from the backstage of a
Although your light alone won’t do much, you only need
others to support you and your light will shine for miles around!
It can happen, you just need the right people around you. It
can take years to find them. I’ve still not found all of my supporting cast!
Don’t forget: we’re learning every day.
Don’t be afraid of making mistakes because that is the best
way to learn and grow.
For my second date, my sister in law and I thought wed try a different pub with tables of a more reasonable height! The puub was almost empty when we arrived, so we had our pick of the tables to sit where I could feel comfortable. The staff were very helpful - and very excited - to have a first date situation going on - even more so when they knew it was through the same agency as used on the 'Undatables' programme - which I have never actually watched!
This second date was alright and was good for my confidence as I had to do a lot of the talking! The staff there were keeping an eye out and said we were talking and laughing the whole time! Which we were. I do always try to make the best of a situation. So far, I have had a second date with the first guy I met and am looking forward to others.
I am really happy to be having a go at this - it is not as scary as I thought it would be and it is really good to meet new people! Its just like meeting a new friend!
Hopefully there will be more dates to come and you just never know what might happen!
I will go back to doing my little blogs to cheer people up next week!
I've tried something new recently. Something very daring for the very first time for me - I have joined a dating agency!
Being in a wheelchair and living in a quiet village can make it very difficult to get out and meet people. I am busy all week but evenings and weekends can be very quiet, so I decided to take a chance. Everyone says that there is someone out there for everyone after all!
I really had no idea what yo expect, but I filled out a form and had a chat with a lovely lady who told me that she meets everyone in person and it would be very safe. She was also very pleased to take on a young lady as she has lots more young men on her books - which sounded good to me!
The first date was arranged at a quiet pub in a large town near where I live. Quite straightforward you would imagine, but when I got there with my brother, we found that nearly all the tables were very high - not very good for me in my chair! We found a lower table right at the back of the pub where, although it was dark, was perfect and I could look out for my date. I didn't feel nervous until my brother left me and I waited to meet a complete stranger!
I was so lucky as my first date was very friendly and very chatty and the time went very quickly. It was a really good start to my dating career!
If you stay in bed all day, the day still happens.’ That
was written by Emily Barr in Blackout which is a Quick Read which suits me at
the moment. But that’s a really good thing to remember. That the world doesn’t
stop, just because you might be dealing with something and need time to cope.
The world is relentless and unstoppable. I find it rather refreshing in that
way. It doesn’t stop just because of a personal crisis that may have occurred
to you. I find it refreshing to imagine other parts of the world continuing as
normal, in spite of this big event that has occurred in your life.
The wind still blows, the sun still rises and sets so when I
think ‘Oh no, it’s all a disaster,’ I just try to remember that life goes on. That’s
why if you want something, it’s much better to go out and make it happen before
it’s too late. Not that you will always know when it is too late. That’s why
I’d rather act in the moment, and if it takes me down a different route to the
one I was travelling before, maybe it was meant to be that way. Once you make a
decision you can’t go back and that’s what I find quite exciting! It can be
scary too, but I find it liberating. These decisions that you are making now
are making your future. That can be a scary concept, if you let things and/or
other people control you. Remember, you are the one in control here. You have
the ability to walk (in my case, wheel) away from a situation if it’s not
helping you. The power is in your corner. Life does still go on and exist,
whether you are going through a hard time or not, and though it might be hard
to realise that, it is for the best in most cases.