Wednesday, 28 September 2016

Carrying on...

For my second date, my sister in law and I thought wed try a different pub with tables of a more reasonable height! The puub was almost empty when we arrived, so we had our pick of the tables to sit where I could feel comfortable. The staff were very helpful - and very excited - to have a first date situation going on - even more so when they knew it was through the same agency as used on the 'Undatables' programme - which I have never actually watched!

This second date was alright and was good for my confidence as I had to do a lot of the talking! The staff there were keeping an eye out and said we were talking and laughing the whole time! Which we were. I do always try to make the best of a situation. So far, I have had a second date with the first guy I met and am looking forward to others.

I am really happy to be having a go at this - it is not as scary as I thought it would be and it is really good to meet new people! Its just like meeting a new friend!

Hopefully there will be more dates to come and you just never know what might happen!

I will go back to doing my little blogs to cheer people up next week!

Steph

XxX



Thursday, 22 September 2016

Something new!

I've tried something new recently. Something very daring for the very first time for me - I have joined a dating agency!

Being in a wheelchair and living in a quiet village can make it very difficult to get out and meet people. I am busy all week but evenings and weekends can be very quiet, so I decided to take a chance. Everyone says that there is someone out there for everyone after all!

I really had no idea what yo expect, but I filled out a form and had a chat with a lovely lady who told me that she meets everyone in person and it would be very safe. She was also very pleased to take on a young lady as she has lots more young men on her books - which sounded good to me!

The first date was arranged at a quiet pub in a large town near where I live. Quite straightforward you would imagine, but when I got there with my brother, we found that nearly all the tables were very high - not very good for me in my chair! We found a lower table right at the back of the pub where, although it was dark, was perfect and I could look out for my date. I didn't feel nervous until my brother left me and I waited to meet a complete stranger!

I was so lucky as my first date was very friendly and very chatty and the time went very quickly. It was a really good start to my dating career!

Wednesday, 14 September 2016

The World Won't Stop!


If you stay in bed all day, the day still happens.’ That was written by Emily Barr in Blackout which is a Quick Read which suits me at the moment. But that’s a really good thing to remember. That the world doesn’t stop, just because you might be dealing with something and need time to cope. The world is relentless and unstoppable. I find it rather refreshing in that way. It doesn’t stop just because of a personal crisis that may have occurred to you. I find it refreshing to imagine other parts of the world continuing as normal, in spite of this big event that has occurred in your life.

The wind still blows, the sun still rises and sets so when I think ‘Oh no, it’s all a disaster,’ I just try to remember that life goes on. That’s why if you want something, it’s much better to go out and make it happen before it’s too late. Not that you will always know when it is too late. That’s why I’d rather act in the moment, and if it takes me down a different route to the one I was travelling before, maybe it was meant to be that way. Once you make a decision you can’t go back and that’s what I find quite exciting! It can be scary too, but I find it liberating. These decisions that you are making now are making your future. That can be a scary concept, if you let things and/or other people control you. Remember, you are the one in control here. You have the ability to walk (in my case, wheel) away from a situation if it’s not helping you. The power is in your corner. Life does still go on and exist, whether you are going through a hard time or not, and though it might be hard to realise that, it is for the best in most cases.
 
Steph
 
XxX

Wednesday, 7 September 2016

Your Experience

There’s a very fine line between confidence and arrogance.

Confidence is having the belief and somewhat knowing that you can do something whereas arrogance is knowing and not caring about others.

People can tread it in all walks of life, and I think it’s rife in the workplace.

Yes, people may have studied, trained for longer and have higher positions than yourself but that is no reason for them to look down their nose at you.

I’m sure people have been victim of this and feel free to share your stories below.

This would really help me as I am currently researching for my story. Thank you.

Your experience of the world is very different to anyone else's - it's different from your view point and it depends very much if you look on a situation as negative or positive.

I hope I help people to experience the latter, but I am aware of the hardships that life can bring to your door.

Steph

XxX

Wednesday, 31 August 2016

The World Doesn't Owe You Anything

Sorry about the no show post last week! I had a lot going on. But I'm back this week...

This world doesn’t owe you anything.

You have to work hard in order to reap the rewards.

You can find rewards in anything if you look hard enough.

Be it a simple, natural reward such as the sun rising, it is still strong.

The world has been here a lot longer than you have.

It doesn’t owe you something just because.

In this day and age there are blurred lines between thinking you are owed something and working towards it.

If you put the work in to back up yourself you are more likely to succeed.

If you leave it all to chance, chances are you’ll lose out in the end.

I was inspired to write this by a piece I read in a book where it said that the particular character believed he was owed something by the world.

Now that may have been a tiny almost insignificant bit in the book but it is not a good attitude to have.

Even if you've been through hell, or are going through hell, the world doesn't owe you a lighter life.

You've just got to learn to appreciate those moments when they come.

Steph

XxX

Wednesday, 17 August 2016

A Key Principle To Remember

You can’t climb a mountain in a day. That might be taking what we do naturally as human beings to extremities but even so; the principle still stands. So don’t get pre-occupied if something doesn’t work out according to plan or there’s something you feel you have to do when your mind should be elsewhere.

This is an important principle to remember. Because while it may be in our dreams to scale a mountain or not even crossed our radar as a possibility or want in life, it’s telling you that some things in life take time to accomplish. You get closer every day to what you want to achieve in life. Don’t worry, even baby steps is still moving. Just as long as you’re going forward.

Also remembering something like this, can help you put your life into perspective. Something you see as huge may be a pinprick in the ocean in the scheme of things. It is important if it matters to you right at this moment, but honestly will it matter in a week, month, year?

Steph

XxX

Wednesday, 10 August 2016

Start In Small Steps

Start a new trend. Smile at strangers. For absolutely no reason other than you want to share your happiness. Because something has gone right today. You've woken up. It can be that small a victory but celebrate it. Make sure you do.

If you see a stranger wearing something nice or they smile at you, make sure you return the smile or compliment them in some way. It’ll be your good deed for the day and you never do know what goes into making a memory for them. And you’ll make their day a little brighter too. It’s win-win-win!

I talk about ‘big’ things because most of the time it’s the ‘small’ things that you do that make the biggest difference. And I love helping people to see that. It doesn’t take much. By making someone else happy you make yourself happy. Your job today is to make someone else smile.

Try not to find anything wrong today. It is the way it is for some reason, even one that may appear so unclear right now. When you find yourself complaining (we all do it) just remind yourself of reasons to smile. Is it a sunny day? Is there a bird singing? Remind yourself that there are many reasons to be happy and positive in this life. And the reasons that I have outlined are just two of the amazing things that might happen in nature. I’m sure there are many others which can be shared below. Thank you for reading.

Steph

XxX